Do you feel like a failure in life?

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What determines your own SELF-WORTH?
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Do you feel like a FAILURE if a guy doesn’t like you?
If you gained some weight?
If you don’t land a certain job or promotion?
If aunties/ uncles/ your parents make comments about you?
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If you said yes… you’re really not in control of your self-worth, are you
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Growing up my self worth was determined entirely by my parents approval, grades, and what college I got into.
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Then in college I was determining my worth by what exclusive clubs I was in or whether guys liked me. I felt like a FAILURE in life if I didn’t get into a “good” sorority or got attention from boys. (Yes even though I had an AMAZING boyfriend I still sought attention from other boys too because that was how I determined my self worth).
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In the tech industry I determined my self worth based on my title and how much money I made. I felt like I was a failure if I didn’t make X amount per year or work at a “good” company that people had heard of.
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Then in the early days of starting my fitness journey I was determining my self worth by what my body looked like and whether or not I woke up with “abs.” I would get anxious if I looked “fat” in pictures or if I posted something on IG which got just a few likes.
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CAN’T YOU SEE THE PATTERN here? >> If you constantly seek your self-worth from other people... you’re NEVER going to good enough!!
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You’re going to always need MORE and MORE approval from someone else around you, the next boss / relationship / friends etc. And you will CONTINUE to seek this forever, and ever, until you die trying to prove yourself to everyone around you.
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I FINALLY have realized that the only person who can give me self worth… is ME!
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I can 100% say that at this point in time my self-worth is determined ENTIRELY by my own SKILLS, CAPABILITIES, and ABILITY to impact other people’s lives.
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If you took away EVERYTHING I have right now-
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My job, my apartment, my income, my fit body, I can say with FULL confidence that I would be able to bounce back based entirely on my skills, mind, and capabilities.
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Yes it would suck, but I have so much internal self worth and I am so fully confident in my capabilities and Self, that it would literally not matter. No one can take that from you!!
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I had an incident recently which made me realize this yet again, that YOU are the only person who can give yourself self-worth. I found myself starting to feeling like a failure because of a comment a family member made about my content, and I started to feel embarrassed & ashamed.
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But remember: Literally no one can determine yourself worth except YOU!
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Literally no one can make you feel like a failure / shame / etc except YOURSELF :-) .
I wish I could go back in time and tell myself this. Since I can’t I’m ranting about it here. I KNOW someone needs to hear this today!! <3
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